Showing posts with label foster mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label foster mother. Show all posts

Friday, July 11, 2014

Foster Children - At-Risk of Abuse by Foster Parents



There are many heart-warming stories about foster parents who selflessly open their homes to foster children. Unfortunately, one foster mom was jailed for abusing her foster child.


Lynn Smith, foster mother to five youths, was arrested because of a video that shows her pushing the head of one of her foster kids into the toilet. Police had been alerted to this and other alleged abuses by an anonymous tipster who wrote:

She abuses them daily and nobody will do nothing, she withholds food from them and makes them stay in rooms or outside all day. Y’all been there already and the kids are still being abused. This is torture and she needs to be prosecuted.”

Smith had been in jail since June 17 because of a separate incident where she was allegedly shoplifting. She's now out on bail, but  DFAC (Division of Family and Children Services) has removed all five foster kids, ranging in age from 2 to 10, from Smith's home.


You also have to wonder how long this abuse has been going on when the tipster writes, "She abuses them daily." Thank goodness that someone finally decided to take action to ensure the health and safety of these foster youths.




You might think that abusing a foster child is a crime since they are under the protection and care of the government, but you'd be wrong. According to Putnam County Sheriff Howard Sills:

"DFACs doesn’t allow corporal punishment on any of their foster kids, but that’s not a crime.”

I don't know about you, but last time I looked, forcing a child's head into the toilet didn't fall under any recognized category of punishment for children. This is the type of action we see on TV when someone is interrogating a criminal or terrorist, not children. State agencies have an obligation to ensure that the foster youth under their care are able to live in a home without the fear of abuse: physical, mental or sexual


A proven solution is for agencies to invest more time and energy in locating family members of foster children so these kids can be placed with relatives that statistically result in better treatment and a happier, healthy child.


This time foster children were taken out of harm's way not because of the successful monitoring of their living environment by DFAC but because a caring adult saw an abuse and courageously took action. Let's hope that more people will be equally brave so that the next time, it's not a story about abuse but one of the death of a foster child. As a society, we can and must do better.

Do it for the children,

Richard Villasana
  Richard

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Thursday, May 8, 2014

A Foster Kid's Life versus Hollywood Teen

Once again a young well-to-do teenager has mistaken his plight in life as being equal to that of foster children. While debating with his sister about their family life, Jaden Smith, son of Will Smith, was caught saying We have no parents all the misfits are foster kids.”

One former foster child took to writing a response. Michael Price points out that the life of foster youth is vastly different from that for their peers and world's away from the lifestyle of Hollywood kids. Michael talks about moving nine times as a foster child in less than 10 years and always with his clothes in a garbage bag.

Yet although foster children suffer greatly while in foster care, many do make it in life after they age out. Take former Miami Heat star and former foster child Alonzo Mourning, who will be inducted into the Naismith Memorial Basketball Hall of Fame later this year. He credits his success and the man he is today to his late foster mother, Fannie Threet.

Being a foster child is really a life of opposites. Many face a life of instability, homelessness, drugs and prison once they age out of foster care. Yet some foster kids go on to achieve great success, sometimes putting them at the top of their field. I agree with Michael that when this happens, we are given a glimpse into what real courage and inner strength is all about, essentially people at their best.


Jaden will have his own struggles as he becomes a man, but it may be wise not to compare himself to foster children. He just might get upstaged.

Regards,

Richard Villasana
  Richard

Richard Villasana
Find Families In Mexico
760-690-3995


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